Follow My Blog
Get new content delivered directly to your inbox.
22nd December 2020
Merry Christmas (and especially Jolabokaflod)
As most of you know, I’m starting a new tradition this year. As I’m in love with most things northerly, I’m bringing into my home jolabokaflod (or, book flood) – the Icelandic tradition of giving books on Christmas Eve. You then spend the evening reading and drinking cocoa (or eating chocolate – I’m not quite sure, but I might do both!). As I’m now in a household of one I decided to ask my social media friends to suggest books to me and, wow! Did they ever! I received nearly eighty recommendations. I find it incredibly hard to make decisions so I chose two books:
The Beekeeper of Aleppo by Christy Lefteri
Wintering by Katherine May
I ordered them from a local independent shop, Maldon Books and collected them this afternoon.
Now, we’re in tier 4 so no travelling is allowed. Except I had books to pick up and as Maldon is on the river, how could I keep away? I took Molly with me and after collecting my books we wandered down the high street and along to the quay. It was a magical time. Today has been one of those days when day never really got started and it felt comforting to be outside, by the water, as day slipped softly into night. After all the drama on the news, it was soothing to be among such gentleness. Lovers sat on benches, birds squabbled and squawked as they settled down for the night, lights twinkled and reflected on the water (well, it was mostly mud as the tide was out, but I’m a romantic, as you know), and I found I was so very grateful for that moment.
So now I’m home. Lovely Son is spending Christmas with me and he arrives tomorrow. I’ve got my books (and chocolates, and cocoa!). Christmas is different for everyone this year. So many people have lost so much. So many people are feeling the bite of loneliness.
Sarah Millican is doing something on Twitter called #JoinIn. Anyone who’s feeling lonely can join in, just tweet, using the hashtag. It’s the tenth year of this initiative, so don’t be afraid to join in if you’re feeling alone.
To all my friends, if you’re feeling lonely and are not on Twitter or don’t fancy the #JoinIn group, send me a direct message and we can ‘talk’. This Christmas will be strange. But we will get through it.
And so, dear friends, I wish you all a safe and happy Christmas. And lots of lovely books!
13th December 2020
Yesterday evening I went to a Christmas party – on zoom, of course – held by Colchester WriteNight. And, being writers, we wrote pieces to read out. It was great fun and there were some tremendous readings. There is such talent in this group and I am in awe of them all. There was poetry, monologues, stories, humour…..and unfortunately I let the side down with a sad tale. I tried to write something funny in the style of Pam Ayres but I just couldn’t manage it. This little piece wormed its way through my head to my pencil and after a week of failing at humour, this was written in about an hour.
The train stops on the way to Edinburgh. It had seemed like a good idea: Let’s go somewhere different for Christmas! But now, being stuck somewhere outside Durham because there is snow on the line…. It’s a bit like Murder on the Orient Express, I say as I look out of the window.
Agatha Christie hadn’t been your thing at all. You were more into adventures of derring-do, Spartacus and Ben-Hur. But in recent years you lay next to me as I watched Miss Marple and Poirot. You were intrigued by the Belgian detective, bringing me titbits of information along with my tea. The hotel on Burgh Island was Agatha’s inspiration for her book: And Then There Were None. Yes, you called her by her first name as if she were an old friend of ours. David Suchet perfects his Poirot walk by clenching a coin between his buttocks, was another favourite. Nothing crude like arse cheeks. Buttocks. It was so very you. And you’d walk across the bedroom imitating Poirot’s gait making me laugh until it hurt.
The driver announces over the tannoy that we may be some time. The buffet car is open for free hot and cold drinks. I wonder if you might go and grab us a coffee but I know that if I ask you will say that it’ll be mobbed, let’s just stay here and watch the snow falling.
Do you remember when we visited Burgh Island? I ask. We lay in the grass and listened to the waves crash below. And we had afternoon tea at Agatha’s holiday home. You don’t answer but I’m sure you’re remembering too. I wonder if there’ll be a murder? I joke. Murder on the Edinburgh Express! Ha! That would be fun.
The lights in the carriage flicker and die. I can see the snow outside now. It is deep and coming down fast. Thick, white flakes are illuminated by the frost moon. Down and down they fall and I am mesmerised as I watch, and I remember.
I see a faint image of a woman in a nightgown. Her grey hair is wispy and her eyes are sunken into hollowed cheeks. I start at the familiarity of her.
I look at your reflection. When did you become so old? Your thin lips are bloodless and a tear traces down your liver-spotted cheek. I wish I could take your sadness with me. I am tempted to swivel my eyes across the glass to see my own reflection. But I hold on fast to you, afraid to move. The woman raises her hand to her face and blows a kiss. I think you feel it for you close your eyes and try to swallow down your grief. She turns around and is obscured by the snow. I want to comfort you but I don’t know how. I hover above you and kiss your head and then, without wanting to, I go out into the snow.
12th November 2020
On the first day of lockdown 2.0 (gosh, aren’t we turning American? Why it can’t just be lockdown 2, or ‘the second lockdown’ is beyond me) I met lovely daughter for a socially distanced dog walk. She showed me a place I hadn’t been to before – salt marshes on the river Crouch at South Woodham Ferrers.
The morning was foggy and Dickensian (my favourite type of weather) and the tide was out exposing the mud banks of the river bed. We saw many wading birds and gulls, and even a heron. Sadly, I forgot to take my camera so I’ll have to commit it all to memory. The river is tidal and there’s a causeway across to Hullbridge on the other side which wasn’t quite exposed but I bet you could’ve made it in a 4×4. Not that I’m encouraging anyone to try, mind you.
All was lovely, all was grand. The three dogs were having a great time, and we were socially distancing catching up. Lockdown 2.0 might not be so bad. We’d made it through the first one and that had lasted for months. So, chitter-chatter we went as we made our way along the riverbank. Until….suddenly….out of the blue (or, out of the mist, I should say) Cassie (the smallest of the three dogs) smashed into my legs from behind sending me crashing to the ground. Yep. I was flat on my back and my ankle throbbed.
Now, this is an unexpected bonus of a foggy walk, there was no-one else around and so I could lie in the mud and try to get feeling back into my ankle in true dignity. After a few minutes, the feeling returned and I gingerly stepped along the rest of the walk. It didn’t feel too bad, to be honest. And I couldn’t see the mud on the back of my jacket and jeans.
By late afternoon I was hobbling. At bedtime I had to go upstairs on my knees. In the morning I had to come down on my bottom. Despite bags of frozen peas and hot water bottles, my ankle swelled and swelled, I now had a true cankle, and was unable to put any kind of footwear on. Even socks made me cry out in pain.
Normally, I would find forced rest and recuperation to be a good thing. Normally I’d think: way-hey…writing time! I can’t do anything else, after all. But these are not normal times. I hadn’t realised how daily walking had become so much of my routine. Although I sometimes didn’t feel like putting on my boots and heading out, usually I came back feeling better. But now I had trouble feeding the chickens, let alone stepping out the front door. My mental health deteriorated dramatically. There have been tears and palpitations, binge eating (I nearly broke into the Christmas biscuits but sanity prevailed) and meal-skipping. I’ve had more mood swings than the Mary Rose fairground ride. It’s difficult to remember that these moods are not me, that this is fleeting, and that once I can get walking again, I will feel better. Meditation and reading has helped me a lot.
So now it’s been a week. My foot and ankle are still swollen and are a pretty mosaic of purple, black and yellow. I’ve had a walk around the block and I’m hoping to go to the supermarket today or tomorrow (if I can get my tyre pressures sorted, but that’s another tale of woe). I am hopeful that soon I’ll be able to get back into my boots but in the meantime, I can’t wait for that. I’m finding other ways to lift my spirits…..online Christmas shopping…..and writing my Christmas cards. Yes, I know it’s early. But once we’re out of lockdown I want to spread my wings and walk, and walk, and walk.
26th June 2020
Life as we know it, Jane
As lockdown restrictions begin to ease, like most of us, I’ve been evaluating how my life has changed. Do I want to go back to life before lockdown? Will I make changes? I think that most of us will – or at least we’ll try to.
I know it’s been a struggle for many: juggling work, schooling and childcare; not being able to see friends and family; being shielded from the world; worry about jobs and money.
For some it’s been a fairly relaxed experience with more time to take up new hobbies, explore the countryside, slow the pace of life down.
For a few of us, life in lockdown hasn’t been very different from our normal routines. We are used to being at home, dealing with loneliness, and planning each day so we get through our chores (although finding the motivation is sometimes difficult!). Some of us, before this pandemic were already living in semi-isolation and only making forays into the big world when we felt able.
I’ve also managed to grieve. Fully. I haven’t had to put a brave face on things if I had an appointment or a date with friends. I’ve been able to stay in bed all day if that’s what I’ve needed. And I’ve been able to cry (oh yes, not a river, but a whole ocean). And in my heart’s breaking, perversely, it’s healed just a little bit more.
I live on a main road – a commuter route – and the absence of traffic has been soothing. Now it’s back to its usual noise of engines and radios, motorbikes hammering through and horns shouting. I find I am feeling a little on edge, my nerves are starting to jar. When I walk in the woods early in the morning, the rush hour has already begun (at 5am!) with vans and lorries hurtling past, ignoring the 30mph speed limit.
During lockdown I’ve taken part in many online events – there is so much there to find. I’ve spoken to family and friends on the phone, I’ve zoomed, I’ve emailed – and it’s all been at my own pace.
I’ve heard that some people are afraid to come out of lockdown because of coronavirus. Funnily enough, catching it isn’t something I’ve worried about. I suppose that when the very heart of you has been twisted and torn you are sort of resigned to fate. That being said, I haven’t been stupid and have taken precautions.
I’m not sure how I feel about coming out of lockdown. I need more time to isolate, to put a sticking plaster over my vulnerability. I think that’s why I bought the campervan – because when it all gets too much, I can disappear for a while. And breathe.
My first blog post on my brand new shiny website. Thanks so much for visiting. I don’t blog about anything extraordinary, I am an ordinary sort of person. But I hope that you will enjoy my posts inspired by love and nature.